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The constant churning of thoughts in
your mind is often labeled – mental chatter, mental talk,
mental noise, inner voice or internal monologue. There is hardly ever a
time when the mind is silent. This internal broadcast accompanies you
wherever you go just like a shadow. No matter how hard you try you just
can’t shed it away.
It very
punctually starts its day the moment you wake up in the morning and
continues until you fall asleep at night. More frequently than
you’d like, this chatter prevents you from drifting off to
sleep. And even when you do finally doze off, it does its best to spoil
the rest.
Internal
Monologue – a True Reflection of Your Spontaneous
Feelings
You may put
on a sophisticated face for the outside world. What you project outside
is how you want to appear to other people. The inner talking is what
you actually are at that moment. This inner voice is frank –
totally frank and unaffected by the necessities of social niceties or
mannerism. It merely reflects your instant inner feelings –
good or bad.
Consider
these common events.
One.
You are talking to your boss. Nodding head in agreement to everything
– because this is how you think you should behave.
And what does
the internal monologue says?
“This
jerk is again trying to talk me into taking up that silly project that
is not going to work. He always tries to push his brainless ideas on
me. This son of …. is wasting my talent.”
In the
afternoon, the boss calls you, offers coffee and tells you, “You
have really done well since you joined us. Very few could do that in
their first job. I would now like you to lead the group. You have good
ideas. Feel free to work them out in your own way. Just let me know
when you need something.”
Now what
happens to the inner dialogue? It takes a U-turn and goes positive. You
are no more abusing him in mind. You are in fact feeling confident and
reassured – your self-esteem got a boost.
Two.
You just heard that Paul got promoted to vice president. You
congratulate him and tell that you are really happy to hear the news.
But the inner
voice says – “This
Company is only for smooth talkers. I am no good… everyone
knows I worked hard and did things Paul stayed away from… I
deserved it but the boss likes Paul… He is so
smooth… Boss always agrees with him… I should be
working elsewhere where I will be appreciated…”
You are hurt,
feeling low and are jealous.
Two hours
later Paul approaches you, “I
am not quite sure the boss made the right decision. Everyone including
me was hoping to see you promoted. Your ability to get things done is
exemplary. I really consider myself fortunate to have you around
me.”
Now the
mental chatter shifts gear; is no more a voice of hurt or jealous.
Three.
Mitch saw Laura talking to John, both appeared to enjoy and talk
freely. He has been seeing Laura for few months.
The mental
talk: “I hate John.
He is so well built and handsome – girls fall for him. I am
just an ugly bundle of bones. I am really nothing. Laura probably
doesn’t like me. No girl will ever like me.”
It is a script of low self-esteem.
Moments later
Laura meets him. She tells him, “You
know something Mitch? I really feel supported when you are around.
Talking to you clears my mind. You are so balanced and
caring.”
Suddenly
Mitch finds his mind silenced. He is filled with confidence and energy.
Don’t
Get Carried Away by the Mental Talk
When you look
at your mental chatter, you will notice that it is telling an instant
truth about your emotional state – in fact it is tied to it.
Whether you like it or not, the inner voice is coming straight from
your subconscious mind. It is nothing but a commentary of spontaneous
judgment and expression, based more on immediate feelings and less on
the bigger reality.
As you
noticed, the direction of mental chatter can change suddenly based on a
new input. One thing is very clear – it does not reflect the
true larger picture. It just reflects a narrow emotional reaction so it
is always going to be a distorted reality.
Reality
of Mental Chatter
To explore
further, try watching your mental chatter for few days. Make sure not
to get involved or carried away by it. Just watch dispassionately,
write down if you want to – the idea is to understand its
characteristics.
You are
likely to come up with the following conclusions:
- It changes
with fresh inputs. When there are no inputs it acquires a habitual tone
based on your average feelings and tendencies.
- The inner
monologue can’t be counted on as reliable or sensible
conversation; it is just the opposite. It can’t become a base
for your interaction with other people.
- The
chatter points towards your intrinsic tendencies and emotional make up.
In this aspect analyzing it can provide you good insight about you.
- The more
you get involved with the nonsensical internal talk, the stronger it
gets. Ultimately it begins to affect your behavior.
Now decide
for yourself how much importance you would give to your mental
conversation.
Not much, I
hear you saying. And that is the correct answer!
How to Stop Mental
Chatter
All stress
and tensions originate in the excessive thinking,
particularly when it is out of control. A relaxed mind has
few thoughts. Speaking in terms of brainwave frequencies, too
much mental chatter means high frequency wave, and relaxed mental
states go with low frequency brainwaves.
Therefore,
brainwave entrainment technique offers a simple yet effective way to
cool down the mind. Alpha wave audios are commonly used for regular
relaxation; the theta and delta waves take you further down to states
of deepr relaxation possible only through meditation. For a
systematic training through well-designed brainwave audios, we
recommend:

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